You have a better chance of keeping him in your life if you stay strong and do what you know is right. If he does leave you, he might come back. If he doesn’t come back, God will reward you with a child whom you will love far more than any ex-boyfriend, and eventually a man who will truly love you and your child as you are meant to be loved.

You are in our prayers. We also encourage you to go to a pro-life pregnancy help center where you can find friends, good counseling, and resources to help you. One way to find help ASAP is to call 1-800-712-HELP.

All I can suggest is the following. First, pray for her and your friend, that they both will have a conversion of heart and repent and renew a commitment to living chaste lives before marriage and lives open to new life after marriage. Pray also to open your heart to whatever God is teaching you through this experience about ways you can speak up with love and compassion to help people around you, both in avoiding sin and finding repentance and healing after a sin.

Do not wallow in your feelings of guilt. Perhaps it would be helpful to confess that you “should have done more,” even if you don’t know what more you could have done. But doing so is primarily so you will build up your resolve to be more thoughtful and persistent and creative in the future when faced with a similar opportunity to intervene and give good advice. I have to think that God is allowing this incident to impact you as it is because He is using it to prepare you to better serve other in the future. So focus on the future and don’t let yourself get bogged down in the past.

Nevertheless the lady called on phone, “she said there is no way she can have a child with no father, she decided to have the abortion, she asked not to share it with my friend. This happened six weeks ago, but what’s bothering me too much is that i really feel guilty on my part, what should i do??

The only advice we can give is to (1) not pretend like nothing is wrong and (2) to reach out to a post-abortion ministry so you can share your tears and grief with women who have been through exactly what you are going through. They are your best hope for the support and understanding you need. If you need a place to start looking for help in your area, check out the resource list here: http://afterabortion.org/help-healing/

Needless to say my boyfriend was less than thrilled. I have poly-cystic ovarian syndrome which basically means that I shouldn’t have been able to get pregnant. I have been told since I was fifteen that I would probably need professional assistance whenever I was ready for children. I knew it wasn’t the best time to have a child right now. But I basically thought this was a miracle baby and I was going to take what I could get even if it was a few years early.

He didn’t agree. I had an abortion yesterday. I cried through the entire process. The paperwork,ultrasound,counseling session, vitals and when they gave a shot to stop her heartbeat. I went to bed crying that night and repeatedly told my bf how much I hated him, but in reality I hated myself more.

The next morning I woke up feeling like a completely different person. It was like I was dead inside. The whole way to the clinic I never said a word. I was crying when they took me into surgery and crying when I woke up. I feel so dumb because the only reason I did it was because I was scared I would lose my bf. I even told him the first day when we were filling out paperwork that I didn’t want to do this, that I wanted to go home. I said it over and over and all he said was sign the papers.

Don’t get me wrong. I have a wonderful bf and he has been taking care of me and letting me know that he will do whatever to make me happy. But I feel like it’s too late. I’ve already begun to feel suicidal and it just happened. I can’t imagine making it through the next years. and the crazy part of me wants my bf to hurt like I hurt when he made me get an abortion. And I know losing me would do that.

Isn’t this article about there being forced abortions done on rape/incest victims who wanted to continue with their pregnancies? Isn’t this article also about challenging the common assumption that all rape victims want to proceed with an abortion?

Pro-choicers advocate change for all women burdened by society’s existing views. But is there much support provided for women who believe it morally wrong to abort/or believe it wrong to solve violence with violence, and thus seek help? Is there even an attempt made by pro-choicers to protect those women from society’s perpetuated beliefs that claims babies conceived by rapists ARE ALL unwanted by their mothers, and by society? I’ve encountered my comments from various sites expressing that such babies are destined to be EXACTLY LIKE the father and thus should be terminated for society’s sake.

Also, due to the ‘supposed’ emotions/feelings held by others surrounding rape and incest, abortion is favored as a necessity for ALL rape/incest victims. Society today doesn’t think of abortion as a shared necessity for the women who have decided for one because they have already accepted that no woman has or would ever want to bore a child resulting from rape/incest.

Regardless of what you might personally feel towards pro-life, it can’t be denied that they’ve provided services for those women who have chosen ‘yes’ and have given birth to their child. Services, prolife based also exist for women who have later on in life regretted their decision to seek an abortion.

Whether religiously based or not, those advocating for prolife understand abortion as an evil. I personally see abortion as murder, and while it seems harsh it I believe that it is necessary. As long as a woman’s whole nature isn’t judged, then it isn’t wrong for me or anyone else to publicly voice abortion as murder. My aim in saying this is to not convince you that you’ve done evil. I, as a prolifer, openly stand against abortion and I want to make myself useful for the young girls/women society and pro-choice doesn’t help.

You don’t regret your decision, fine. But what if you later on in life regretted your decision and sought for compassion? You might not seek it, but others are and there is proof for the need for compassion.