An Index of Our Most Read Testimonies
- Looking For Advice in All the Wrong Places
- Trying to Survive
- Two Senseless Deaths: The Long Road to Recovery
- Divine Mercy in My Soul
- No One Told Me I Could Cry
- A Daughter’s Grief and a Family’s Burden
- Accomplices in Incest — Forced abortion following incest
- Released
- Amazing Grace
- Before I Had Time to Think — Abortion after date rape pregnancy
- “Misinformed” Consent
- The Choice
- The Search for Meaning
- Consequences
- The Choices We Make
- The Dream
- In God We Trust
- Our Greatest Need
- A Mother’s Anguish
- Fear and Forgiveness
- Just Let Her Know You Love Her — A post-abortive father’s grief.
- Anguish of an Aborted Mother
- Women Who Abort: Their Reflections on the Unborn
Several Testimonies are included in this chapter of The Jericho Plan
For more first hand testimonies, see the books Giving Sorrow Words and Aborted Women, Silent No More.
Still more testimonies can be found in The Post-Abortion Review
We encourage you to share your testimony at AbortionRisks.org
None of your testimonies feature women who are happy that they got an abortion and experience no regret, shame, or guilt in choosing what’s best for them. You’re leaving out a huge number of women that are perfectly fine with their choice. It’s leading me to believe that nothing can be trusted on this website, because it’s all biased.
Anyone is welcome to provide such a testimony.
I’m very frustrated and troubled with this website. So when another testimonial says they dont trust your website I can definitel;y understand. I’m just upset that I finally drew the courage to speak up and you are the third prolife website to ignore me. I’ve made two unsuccesful phone calls as well. Your information says be careful about who you call and here is a list of 10 to choose from. I guess thats helpful. I believe I’ll make contact with the right person at the right time. I just thought you should know how hurtful its been for me to get no response when I’ve seen you respond to everyone else.
Hi Aimee,
We don’t recall seeing your earlier post and apologize if we did not respond when you requested it of us. Regarding the phone numbers listed on our resource page, obviously they are not all ours so have no control over whether calls get answered.
How can we help you?
I guess you can’t. Thanks for your response. Aimee
As another administrator pointed out, those who have different experiences of abortion are certainly welcome to share their stories. Certainly not every woman is going to feel the same way about her abortion and we don’t suggest that every woman has been traumatized or has negative feelings after abortion. But, given the nature of our site, most of the women we hear from had problems coping and want to share their story to help others (those who are just fine are probably less likely to contact us). We aren’t trying to limit points of view, just trying to give women who feel silenced a voice and share information that might help other women who are struggling.
This site isn’t biased. It’s girls and women telling their stories of their life. By life; I mean the child or children. There’s a lot of compassion here.
so nia,where are the happy testimonies anyway ?
only ones i ever read for proabortionists were snarky and nasty attempts to justify what they did.
never read a happy one so maybe you can supply some links ?
i’ll start the list of comments from those that aborted 50% of their own DNA
http://www.thisismyabortion.com/
Nia, dear one This is a site for healing and educating others. You will see what you want to see. As for me I understand being forced to abort my beloved child. I pray that you never have to understand anything due to the experiences that many of us have. HUGZ
I have a response to Nia Scott. I dont know if happy is the right word. I think its probably natural to feel stupid in a crisis pregnancy because most of the time it seems an apparent preventable avoidable decision could have been made. Extreme relief is a more approriate feeling. That is how I could describe my feelings. Regret and guilt are things I’m trying to force myself into. As a Catholic mother of seven living children, I struggle with the inability to receive the sacrament of reconciliation with no true purpose of amendment. I’m overwhelmed all the time and could not possibly bear to have another child. I’d love to go on a rachels vineyard retreat but feel id be the only person who’s not remoseful. I haven’t read any story of anyone close to how I feel. Perhaps maybe my feelings would change but i do not see how I could ever feel like it would be possible for me to handle another even healthy child. So even though I’m struggling with mental health issues I dont believe it is just numbness and denial. I think I’m completely reasonable to avoid having another child. Nonetheless I found myself pregnant at least four times in the last couple years. Ordering pills and recipes online provided a non traumatic way for me to have abortions at home with no one knowing but my husband. I believe this took away much of the grief I’ve read about from the women who had a clinic experience.
Thank you for sharing, and I’m very sorry for the long response time. With a very small staff, it’s hard to respond to posts in a timely fashion.
A couple of things. You mentioned struggling “with the inability to receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation.” I would suggest finding a good priest to talk to about this issue, even outside of the sacrament. Your local diocese probably has an office that provides post-abortion help, and there is often a priest connected with this ministry who is trained in this area. Try searching your diocesan web site for such an office (it might be called Project Rachel or be listed as part of the diocesan pro-life or social justice ministries) or call the diocesan offices to ask. Or visit the Project Rachel web site at http://www.hopeafterabortion.org and click on “Find Help” to find local offices.
You also mentioned that you would love to attend a Rachel’s Vineyard retreat but don’t know if you should because you might not share the same feelings as the other attendees. While I can’t speak for the people at Rachel’s Vineyard, I would think that it isn’t necessary to feel a certain way or to have been traumatized by abortion to attend a retreat. I am sure you would be welcome no matter where you are at on this issue.
If this kind of setting seems uncomfortable but you still want to work through any unresolved issues, you might want to look for a mental health professional or an organization that offers one-on-one counseling. The Abortion Recovery web site lists many different types of counseling resources on their site at http://www.abortionrecovery.org (or you can call them at 1-866-469-7326).
catholic mother of 7 does home style abortions via potions etc ? c’mon girl,give us all a break and not all out here are unfamilar with the scatology posted online either.
We are two close friends living together, my friend had sex with a lady, soon my friend decided to end their relationship, however then the same young lady got pregnant, so the lady explained everything to me, my friend wasn’t ready for all responsibities for what happened and he was willing to deny the pregnacy, the lady loved and still loves him.
Nevertheless the lady called on phone, “she said there is no way she can have a child with no father, she decided to have the abortion, she asked not to share it with my friend. This happened six weeks ago, but what’s bothering me too much is that i really feel guilty on my part, what should i do??
We feel sorry for you and all those involved. It appears your feelings of guilt arise because you feel like you perhaps have said or done something else which would have helped her to decide against the abortion or to help your friend to show commitment to her and the baby.
All I can suggest is the following. First, pray for her and your friend, that they both will have a conversion of heart and repent and renew a commitment to living chaste lives before marriage and lives open to new life after marriage. Pray also to open your heart to whatever God is teaching you through this experience about ways you can speak up with love and compassion to help people around you, both in avoiding sin and finding repentance and healing after a sin.
Do not wallow in your feelings of guilt. Perhaps it would be helpful to confess that you “should have done more,” even if you don’t know what more you could have done. But doing so is primarily so you will build up your resolve to be more thoughtful and persistent and creative in the future when faced with a similar opportunity to intervene and give good advice. I have to think that God is allowing this incident to impact you as it is because He is using it to prepare you to better serve other in the future. So focus on the future and don’t let yourself get bogged down in the past.
I’d like to thank you guys for all your information on the site. It’s rather eye-opening and shows you a part of abortion that is not as known.
In school for my government class I am working on an advertisement about Pro-Life and was wondering if I could quote some of the lines in these testimonies as long as I site your website in my sources. Do I have permission to do that?
Yes. You may quote material from our web site.
Ah, okay. Well, I am happy that I was able to obtain a safe, legal abortion quickly when finding out I was pregnant. I’m grateful to the kind doctor and nurse who were not just supportive physically, but also emotionally. It was the most appropriate choice for me at the time and I am not ashamed of my choice.
Thanks!
We are glad that you did not have the impersonal experience reported by many. We hope you continue to cope well and also hope you will understand and respect that many women do not cope so well.
I hev a one year old baby but we are separated with the father now im pregnant for my boyfrend.i didnt tell him that i have a baby now he wants me to move in with him.i want to abort coz my family will be disapointed .help me pliz
Don’t abort just because you’re afraid your family will be disappointed. The trauma you will suffer will be far worse than any temporary embarrassment. I emphasize temporary embarrassment because your family will not only quickly adjust and accept you and your children, they will love your new child. While it may never be said, the truth will be that your child will be a blessing on you and all of them, even though at this moment the surprise announcement that you are bringing this child into the world will catch them off guard and may even upset them.
Be strong, for the sake of both your baby and protecting yourself from the physical and psychological effects of an abortion.
I know you are also afraid that your boyfriend will be upset about you already having another child. Again, be prepared to accept a temporary surprise and disappointment and confusion on his part. But actually, this is a good test of whether or not he is really a loving man. A man who is really able to love as you want and deserve to be loved can and will open his heart to both you and all of your children. If he can’t, your better off without him.
He may need some time to think about it and weigh all of this in his heart, and to meet your one year old and to feel the potential of loving your child as a father well up in his heart. So give him some time. But don’t do anything rash and do be prepared to protect yourself and your children from a relationship that is not truly loving if he cannot accept and love all of you.
Don’t have an abortion. Be honest with your boyfriend and your family. There may be some unsettling days ahead, but stay the course. Protect your children and yourself. Trust that God has a plan for you. Every child He gives you comes with blessings and new opportunities. In the long run, you will always be thankful for each of your children. But an abortion will haunt you forever.
Finally, I strongly encourage you to seek the advice–and most importantly, the friendship–of a pregnancy help counselor. She may even be able to help with some of the family dynamics and with your boyfriend.
You are in our prayers.
All these testimonies are interesting; I thought I’d add mine because it’s a little different. It happened long ago (I’m in my 50s now) and I have long since healed, both emotionally and spiritually; but I didn’t have the issues initially that many of your writers had (mine came later): At age 19, and a sophomore in college; I became pregnant after my first sexual encounter. I mention that it was my first because I had no idea I was pregnant for many months. My menses did not cease until I was 5 months pregnant! When I went to the doctor to find out what was going on I was in shock. I tried crazy things like jumping out of a 2nd floor window (hoping to “jar” the baby); and taking quinine (it just made my ears ring). By the time I’d cried for days; talked to my (eventual) husband, spoken with an agency called Birthright (at the time a very gentle pro-life agency that let me make up my own mind); prayed about it, and told my parents – I’d decided to keep the baby. However, at the time I started to lose her: and my 7-month preemie was born. God is a miracle worker and my beautiful baby girl made it (and lived to be the wonderful woman she is today).
But that’s not the end of the story. When my daughter was about 4 months I (now a married woman); found I was pregnant again. I hadn’t had the chance to start birth control; had just returned to college; was a teen bride (in a shaky marriage); and abortion was illegal without my husband’s permission in my state. Without a second thought I flew to New York (without telling my husband where I was going), and got the abortion. I never thought about it twice until the moment of the abortion when I suddenly burst into tears. Years later when I was degreed; my marriage was now stronger and happy; my child was older; and my husband and I decided to have more children; I found I couldn’t bring my babies to term. After several miscarriages, I thought God was punishing me for the abortion I’d had (actually, I’d probably always had the weak cervix). I went to my pastor about my emotional struggles and he had a good discussion with me as well as turned me to my bible. I now don’t believe that God was getting “revenge” on me, but I do believe that sometimes our decisions can cause us to have consequences for our actions we might not expect.
Here’s the kicker- I still don’t believe it’s my right to push my beliefs on someone else. I made my own mistakes-nobody stopped me legally. Even with all my mistakes, God has blessed me with wonderful grandchildren from that one baby I tried not to have – and almost lost. So for me, I see both sides of the problem and have a hard time judging others who want to make their own decisions.